Truly Being Your True Self

by Sue on July 26, 2010

Do you know who you truly are? It may be a weird question to ask yourself, but if you think about it, it may be difficult to answer. You may be a certain way towards your friends, or parents, or boss. It’s interesting that as people, we have a certain persona towards different people. Imagine that your best friend or significant other – probably the person who knows you best followed you for a day. He/she would see how you were towards your mom, your coworker and the person in front of you at Starbucks. At the end of the day, what does he/she have to say about you?

It may be difficult to grasp, but being your true self is definitely difficult (or even confusing) in all situations.  I personally realize that I am so different towards the people who I work with even though we spend the majority of our day together, 5 days a week. When I am with my husband, who I spend 4-6 hours a day with during the week, I am a certain way towards him. Even though we don’t spend all our time together, I am more comfortable with him than I am with my coworkers. Or even my best friend, who I only see once a year or even longer than that, but we interact online on a daily basis – I can tell her anything and not hold anything back.

When someone asks you to describe yourself, how do you do it when you act differently towards specific people in your life? Do you base it out of those specific situations? Or do you base it out of the specific people you feel most comfortable with? I think it can be a difficult thing to determine. I would want to be my true self, in all situations: A kind, honest person who respects everyone, but refuses to be taken advantage of. A strong, bold, action taker that looks at life positively and realizes that things happen for a reason, and therefore should take things as they are. We should all remember that we are who we are and not let anyone think we are anything less.

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  • Healy

    Do you know why it's so difficult to instruct someone in the art of being themselves? Because it's not something you can do with action. It's not something you can do by trying. It's not something you can do by restraining yourself. You can't do it with any effort.

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  • Salvync

    This post was very deep. It is true we hare very different depending where or who are we with. But there is a little part of us in this situations. We have to behave and act depending on the place or person we are talking to. But again very interesting and deep observation of your part.

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    Being ourselves is being who we are in front of who we love. Personally, I am who I want to be in front of certain people but always come back to myself when I am at home or with my wife and friends.

    You're certainly yourself on your blog by how personal you are.

  • Brad

    Sometimes, actually. While I don't pretend to be someone else, I censor off some aspects of my personality to certain people so they'll view me the way I want them to, in a way that I believe they will like me better. I believe I can be mean or unpleasant even if I don't mean to come off that way, so I take extra care to not scare anyone off my being myself. In this way, I can still sort of be myself, but I'm holding back the “bad.” I did this for someone who eventually came to be my best friend and consequently one of the most important people in my life now. Eventually I became comfortable enough to totally be myself, and she likes me all the more for it. I'm not sure if it would have turned out this way if I was just 100% me.

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